If one or more of the following points ring true for you, it may be time to re-evaluate the viability of your relationship. Although it is definitely preferable to salvage a relationship wherever possible, I do not tell my clients that they should stay together at all costs. Sometimes it is just better to move on and find a better fit, i.e., end your relationship. Within any healthy relationship one should feel valued, supported, and accepted… you should feel like you are fine just the way you are! Below are 10 signs you are in the wrong relationship for you.
1. You feel like you’re not “good enough” in many ways, and it makes you feel less worthy of the relationship.
2. You both talk about your relationship getting better “someday”.
3. You feel loved and supported … when things are going well.
4. You feel hurt, disrespected, taken for granted, angry, trivialized, lonely, dismissed, shamed, guilty, etc. on a regular basis.
5. When asking your partner to visit with your friends or family, you feel like you’re requiring them to give up who they are and what they want to do.
6. When you articulate your needs, you can’t help but feel co-dependent, like a drama queen or king, irrational, and/or high maintenance.
7. You only feel secure in the relationship when you’re actually together.
8. You are a totally different person around your mate.
9. You sense you are a secret being kept by your partner.
10. You know there are “deal breakers” neither of you are talking about.
Conclusion: If one or more of these 10 reasons resonated with you, I encourage you to further explore your thoughts and feelings. Connect with a psychologist, confide in a friend, or journal about your experiences.
Dr Sharolyn Sloat, Psychologist Victoria BC
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